What is the perfect age to get married?
This question comes up more often than you might think and the answers that are given just might surprise you! Of course the responses from people are a matter of opinion and in some cases their own experience. But there is no doubt that the subject of when and why to get married are always hot button topics. Okay y’all, we did the dirty work for you and compiled a list of some of the reasons why a few of the‘experts’ debate the idea of getting married earlier or later in life below. Do you agree? What do you think? Share your comments below:
Early 20s (20-24)
According to David Lapp from the Wall Street Journal, “A recent study by family scholars at the University of Texas finds that people who wed between the ages of 22 and 25, and remained married to those spouses, went on to experience the happiest marriages. While the authors caution against suggesting that 22 to 25 is the optimal marrying age for everyone, their finding does suggest that “little or nothing is likely to be gained by deliberately delaying marriage beyond the mid twenties.”
Late 20s (25 -29)
Korin Miller from Cosmopolitan.com says that “there are practical reasons for the mid-20s dividing line, and most of them boil down to two biggies: education and money. Turns out, the more years of higher education a woman has under her belt on her wedding day, the lower the chances that she’ll get divorced…and by 25, you’re more likely to have earned a degree or two. “Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesn’t meet their standards,” explains Terri Orbuch, PhD, author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.
Odds are that by 25 you’re also supporting yourself, so there’s less incentive for you to rush into marriage because you’re seeking financial security from him.”
Paul Hudson from Elitedaily.com puts it this way,“When you understand yourself better, you act differently; you act accordingly to all that you know about yourself. Once you know what you do like, what you don’t like, what bothers you and what you can actually deal with, you think differently and, therefore, act differently. The same goes for your partner. He or she won’t be the same person in 10 years. Individuals are still in their developmental stages throughout their 20s and into their 30s. Getting married when you’re in these age brackets is simply much, much riskier. You may not like the person you’re married to only a decade later. You may not even be compatible.”
Chelsea Kaplan from Match.com explains that “When it comes to marriage, two halves definitely do not make a whole. Taking the time to develop into your best, most complete individual self before you marry allows you to bring vital ingredients to the table; you are more confident, you know who you are (and more importantly, who you’re not), you have a better idea of what you need from a potential husband and what it means to be a good wife. You have control of your finances and aren’t overly needy or volatile. You’ve achieved a healthy separation from your family and won’t end up feeling resentful for the adventures or passions you wish you would’ve pursued during your younger, single years. In short, you are able to come into the marriage as an equal partner, because you’re a grown-up.”
According to Aimee Groth from Business Insider:
“Men and women are getting married later than ever before, pushing 30 by the time they walk down the aisle. The Brookings Institution put together a report on the current state of marriage in the U.S., Knot Yet, about this fascinating shift, which transcends socioeconomic status.
“Culturally, young adults have increasingly come to see marriage as a ‘capstone’ rather than a ‘cornerstone,'” say the researchers. “That is, something they do after they have all their other ducks in a row, rather than a foundation for launching into adulthood and parenthood.””
Why some say “Never”!
Renee Jacques from the Huffington Post wrote that “a 2010 Pew survey states that, by and large, single people do not feel married people have many advantages in terms of a “fulfilling sex life, being financially secure, finding happiness and having social status.” And 24 percent of those who do feel marriage makes a positive difference in life say that when it comes to work, getting hitched can significantly hinder one’s chance at getting ahead in one’s career.”
What age did you get married and how has it worked out for you? In your opinion what is the perfect age to get married?
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